February 9, 2012 § 3 Comments
Interestingly, taking time to jot down a few goals now and then can boost you into success. Research shows that those who regularly write down their goals earn approximately 9 times as much over their lifetime as those who don’t. According to Dave Kohl, professor emeritus at Virginia Tech:
So Much Ado About lists…but the Mother of All lists in adoption is THE REFERRAL LIST!
It carries so much weight in the daily lives of all of us hoo are waiting. Where are you on the list? Have you moved up at all? What number are you? etc., etc…
A couple months ago now, Jamie and I decided to stop asking Terri at the agency where we were on THE LIST. We figured it wasn’t making a difference in our timeline anyhoo. It was nice to see progress and be able to tell people when they asked, that yes “we moved up a notch!” — but when you leap from 18 to 13 in less than a month, then sit at number 3 for 3 months — it’s just all too harrowing. So we are focusing on where we sit on the list no more.
This is what Terri told us regarding the Referral List:“I do think there is misconception regarding the list.. the list is the way I keep my information straight in knowing what age and gender the families are approved for. It all comes down to when your dossier was submitted as to who gets the referral. That is why I encourage clients to submit the their dossier as soon as possible so they can get on the list. You could be number one but whoevers dossier was in first would get the referral if they fall within the age range…I know everyone wants to know their numbers but again…the numbers are basically for my info and do not necessarily reflect where you are…”
So we wait. And one day the phone will ring and we will be at the top of the world!