April 15, 2012 §
As my friends (& sisters!) sign up for childbirth classes, try on nursing bras, pack their hospital bags and map the quickest route to the hospital in preparation for their little peanuts to arrive…there are some things that us who are hoping-to-be an adoptive mommie sometime soon-ish need to do before the great Referral.
Sadly we can’t say “soon-to-be” because that is not a reality in the adoption world, but we do gladly get to dodge some of the more unmentionable pregnancy related tasks such as Kegel exercises and managing gas [Jessica Simpson Tweeted that she farts “like 15 times that (referring to the average person farting 15 times a day)“]!
So there is “No baby yet,” but OWAS did let us know that “it should be soon….I am only waiting for that age range (0-12 months).” This means that any day now we could open our email and see a little face looking back at us!
We have decided to drop whatever we are doing and rush home to open the email together to look at our (possible) child. The reason I inserted “possible” is because there is an off-chance that the first referral won’t pan out. We have heard of cases where couples have had to reject a referral due to medical reasons and so forth. God help us if we are challenged to face that very difficult choice. Jamie and I talk about this possibility as part of our pre-referral planning.
Another step in pre-referral planning is to contact your local adoption specialist doctor. Our Alberta agent (CAS) suggested we contact Cecilia Baxter’s office at the Edmonton Adoption Clinic beforehand and acquire the email address we will need to send the referral to. The phone number there for preadoption is 780-735-4604.
So once that’s done what else can we do but check our emails 300 times a day, read more adoption books, browse the blogosphere for more Congo adoption blogs and wait some more?