December 14, 2012 § 8 Comments
A Care Package we put together for our daughter is on it’s way to her in the DRC and should get to her before Christmas.
Another adoptive Albertan mommy with whom I have been emailing back and forth is on her way to the DRC and most generously offered to take something to our daughter for us. We scrambled to find just the perfect things to put inside a single large freezer bag. After some internet research on sending care packages to orphanages and consulting with our agency, we went with some simple but meaningful articles.
Our agency recommended to not send toys because toys are communal at orphanages and as much as we would like our daughter to have her own special doll or stuffy–it is just not a reality. Instead, they suggested that we send a blankie because the child will likely get to keep it for themselves. We had already been given a few lovely blankets for Z.Z. as gifts, so we picked the only one that would squish into the freezer bag. We also read somewhere that it is good to sleep on it for a couple nights so that it will smell like us so that our daughter can get familiar with our scent. Awe…
The next item we selected is a picture of us and eddie that we put in a small plastic frame that has a voice recording built-in to it. We found this at Walmart for $10 in the card section. You can also get it here: Magnetic Photo Clip
This is the message we recorded:
“Hello, Losako *her name*. This is mama & papa. We are your Family, Libota. Na lingi yo (says Jamie), Na lingi yo (says I). We love you…tata (says Jamie), mama (says I)…”
We hope she can cherish these items and get to know our faces, smell and voices until we are united.
With Hope & Love,
P.S. there is some controversy over sending care packages to adopted children at orphanages. Keep in mind the children who are not yet adopted and how they feel. Some say care packages satisfy the (emotional) needs of the adoptive parents more than they benefit the child. We did heartily examine this issue and contemplated not sending anything to our daughter, but our agency assured us that most parents send a care package to the orphanage as soon as they pass court…so with this in mind, we did not want our daughter to feel left out! And we also wanted to provide her with an opportunity to start bonding to us, as we have been to her (with her pictures).
Here are a couple links with some more information: